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I have been seriously remiss in all things Livejournal
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I haven't been chekcing my f-list posts until days after the postings, I haven't been posting myself, not even my 365 Photography Project, I have been out-of-the-loop but I hope understandably so.

We moved our daughter, Lauren, to Santa Cruz yesterday and while I know every parent understands that one day their child will leave home, I still didn't really imagine it would come so soon. She's only 17, and looks about 15, and as I looked around at the other students it was definitely and OMfreakin'G moment...how old they all seemed. Still, her dormmate, Yasmin, is very nice as are her parents and Jimmy, Lauren's bestie forever, lives just down the hill

Move-in could not have gone more smoothly or more pleasantly and while the kids attended a mandatory late afternoon meeting, we parents were invited for refreshments to the Crown College Provost's home, where we chit-chatted, all adult-like, with a group of lovely people including the Dean of Academics. And then we drove away, leaving Lauren on one side of the mountain range while we went to our home on the other side. Still, she called us before we'd even gotten home, asking how we were doing, telling us she missed us and that's where we're at.

At random moments, over the past few months, I'd find myself crying, tearing up really, watching her while she diced veggies for dinner or while she laughed at some silly TV show, even when she'd give me one of those looks like I could not possible have fewer active brain cells. The actual crying would come at other times, during a shower, or while trying to sleep. And that kind of  crying? that will not be going away any time soon because if you've spent anytime with me and my journal, you know how Lauren was ever at my side.

She sent me this

which pretty much sums it up.

We do what we know is right even when we know it will hurt like hell and so it goes.

Cool thing though UCSanta Cruz itself is divided into 10 small colleges each with a different flavor. Lauren is in Crown College -- science & technology -- which is also divided into several houses. Each house is named for a scientist. Hers is Galen and no, we didn't have any say in her houseing assignment.

Peace and love

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I'll be thinking of you, Gaeln.


I was so homesick for home so I wrote my parents. My dad corrected it in red pencil and sent it back to me LOL even though he'd look in my room and want to cry.

thank you and yeah, I don't think I'll be correcting any letters, or more likely emails from Lauren. I am glad your dad missed you though :)

Would have been nice if he'd have told me that. Mom didn't tell me until 30 years later.


I can't say much to you about Lauren because I can't imagine the relationship you two have so I will just think of you both during this time of adjustment.

I can't imagine how much you miss her. As she gets adjusted to school and makes friends, she'll be spending time with them and you will have a little time for you, too. Win-Win for you both.

Must be really tough right now, though. Both homesick. Write a story about someone being homesick.

Take care of you.


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you're absolutely right, she is only on the other side of the hill, and so I should be, and am, very grateful. She likes her new roomie and that's a relief. And thank you, we're all very glad the movie went so smoothly.

*HUGS* I do understand how you feel. For Jenn and me it was an incredible emotional upheaval.

it's knowing this, that so many before us have made this transition successfully helps, knowing that you and Jenn did helps, adapting to a new way of being. I knew you'd understand :)

I'm glad you haven't been posting much, mostly just coz i haven't been reading much...:) It's nice to hear that the send off went well. I know it's tough for you now, but you seem to have a great relationship with her. <3 Sending you happy vibes!


thank you, sweetie, I so appreciate your happy vibes, I can feel them twittering through me even as we speak.

Give your baby girl a kiss for me, k?

thanks, sweetie, I feel all warm and safe now :D

Hers is Galen and no, we didn't have any say in her houseing assignment.

That was written in the stars.

You must send care packages that she can share with her Yasmin. Cookies and flowers and photos and soap and all kinds of stuff.

'That was written in the stars.'
I know, right? When she got her housing assignment, I was all like, 'meant to be!!'

You're right, I should include her Yasmin, I had thought only to including her Jimmy, Thanks for reminding me :D

I can only imagine how hard it must be for you.
Thinking of you and sending you my love ♥
*hugs you tight*

thank you, sweetie, you have no idea how much your kind thoughts mean to me.
*Hugs you back*

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