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Happiness Month_Day Sixteen
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Day Sixteen
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          I'm grateful:
46_that it was never even a consideration that I wouldn’t go to college. It was understood.
47_that David and I were able to give each other the wedding and honeymoon of our dreams. And yes, since we did marry older, we paid for both the wedding and the honeymoon. All we asked was that everyone meet us in San Francisco, which I don't think was asking too much.
48_that I have never been in a physical fight, have never been physically harmed by, or have physical harmed, anyone

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           One Positive_16/ 21
Lauren and I had a lovely wonderful terrific day being lazy. We watched an episode of Merlin and a couple of Psych and an episode of STNG. Glorious.
        I did one act of doing something beyond the normal: Actually, I returned a couple of emails that had been lingering in my inbox for waaaay too long (one from mid-February...I'm so bad) and both answered back to me...today (le sigh)
          I did exercise: Today, we lazed
          I did meditate: I did my 25 minutes via iPod while Lauren showered

Five days to go.

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College, weddings and non-violence...sounds like the antithesis of my own life. *g*

and both answered back to me...today (le sigh)

Yeah. I realize that's how correspondence works, but to me that means I have to do the whole thing over again (le sigh).

That college and weddings are the antithesis of your life I can imagine, but that non-violence is also, even though I do know a little about you, disturbs me. That's probably not the right word, I don't know. I just wish it wasn't so.

Exactly. For me though, this only happens with a couple of RL friends, one in particular, and really isn't too much of a deal. I just found it annoyingly amusing :)

but that non-violence is also, even though I do know a little about you, disturbs me. That's probably not the right word, I don't know. I just wish it wasn't so.

Nothing serious, though I've had my share of physical fights, with Chris too. Maybe it's the gender difference and physical aggression is just part of our makeup and sort of second nature, especially when pushed into a corner, I don't know. Bad fights tend to get physical when they escalate enough, probably because strength is more equally matched, since that inhibition not to hit someone weaker we're (hopefully) ingrained with falls. It's not a big deal.

LOL Don't you just hate it when people answer you right back when you just don't have the time to communicate with them :)

I made a list today with things I'm going to do before April is over, all thanks to you who inspired me to challenge myself a bit.

I answer back to most LJ comments quickly, but I have a couple of chatty friends, which is totally cool, but since I do want to answer back properly, that does take some time and thought. If they would just give me a few days in between, that's all I ask :)

I'm not the one who normally inspires others so, thank you so much for saying that I have inspired you. I hope you'll post about your challenges.

What a lovely day! It was a "tonic" just to read about it! :)
I am glad you had such a good time. And you are good at thinking of the things it is so easy to take for granted. Like a college education. It is becoming so hard now for even middle class families to send their children to college.

Your posts are becoming a reason, THE reason to log on to LJ for me!

Hugs,

Arwen

thank you so much, I so appreciate your very kind thoughts. What I'm enjoying is that a couple of people on my flist are doing their own versions of this little meme. How fun is that?

Hugs to you!

Gaeln

You should title your wedding album, "Meet Me In San Francisco" with a 1940s golden-tinted photograph of the city, the bay and the bridges. I can see it perfectly. Do you want more unsolicited advice?

I grew up on the streets and had a few physical fights. Yikes. I didn't like them but sometimes, they just happened. I have all my teeth and no permanent scars. :)

You will find this idea on my next mission101 because I love it! And any unsolicited advice you wish to give me will be most appreciated. Thank you.

'I grew up on the streets and had a few physical fights'
This is, as I'm sure you know, a provocative statement. Feel free to elaborate. Still, that you had to fight your way out of situations is scary to me. Glad there weren't any permanent scars or missing teeth.

Well, I am pleased as punch that you like the idea so much!


The fights were mostly a couple of shoves, slaps and hair pullings. One did involve us falling to the ground and rolling around. Scratches and bruises were the results. Never a black eye so really minor league stuff.

This one and the next one, are they coming along as a result of something in your life? Different from others, the gratitudes. Interesting and make me want to know what generated them.

M Lyn


I wrote all the gratitudes one evening before I started doing this meme so, no they aren't coming along from anything different than all the others. I think that, as I look over it, I realize more and more that I've had a fairly privileged life and how very fortunate that makes me. These 3 particular gratitudes speak to that.

These gratitudes seemed so much deeper and different to me than the others. Such a feeling of peace with them.

The following is quote from video I use to meditate:

"Along with this newfound feeling of relaxation, observe a feeling of gratitude. Gratitude develops receptivity and deepens the practice of relaxation."

This whole idea blew me away when I started using the YouTube video Simple Relaxation, a guided Meditation. It's just seven minutes long and I've been using it since July. I've noticed that my feelings of gratitude have expanded in that time. Doing the Success/Gratitude every night before bed has done exactly that.

One of my main goals for this year is to begin to see that what happened to me as a child brought me many gifts and my goal is to learn to see what I used to see as negative as positive

. The exercise we did last night at my writing community will be very helpful toward that end, surprisingly enough.

I've been wanting to put on paper why I write, what the deeper meaning is to the two short memoirs I'm writing are. I seldom get the theme, whatever that is.

No one wants to read a story where it's a rehash of what happened. They want to know if some good came out of such an extreme family life. People said epic, heroes journey, when I said, "You should have a feeling of greatness for what you have done with the hand you were dealt." One of my personal growth guides said that.

I wrote a piece and have it in private so you haven't seen it.

I have never gotten how I need to be grateful for my childhood. Now, I'm getting a glimmer. It's great!!!!

Meditation really is profound, isn't it.

M Lyn

M Lyn

Edited at 2013-03-23 08:44 pm (UTC)

'I have never gotten how I need to be grateful for my childhood. Now, I'm getting a glimmer. It's great!!!!'
This in particular is wonderful, opening new more positive vistas on our past helps us see more clearly who we really are.

'Meditation really is profound, isn't it.'
It really is. I haven't meditated in a few days, bad cold, bad headaches, and I'm very much looking forward to getting back to it :)

Oh, I'm the same with replying to emails. And text messages. And Facebook messages...just any contact in general!

I'm on top of text messages and am not on Facebook, thank goodness. It's those emails that someone has taken time to compose that take me for ever to reply to since a feel I need to reply in kind and while I like to write, writing take me forever. You seem to get back to LJ comments quick enough. Good contact?

That is a new development for me, I am usually hopeless with LJ comments too. I made it one of my 101 things in 1001 days to work on replying to comments, so I've been a lot better recently.

I too am a laggard at replying to e-mails. For example, I got an e-mail on Tuesday from one of the people I'm going out with tomorrow night. Pat had a few questions: how much does she owe me for the tickets, did I want to go out to eat before the play, any suggestions where? I meant to answer right away, I did, I did. Then yesterday she called me, thinking I hadn't gotten her e-mail. I was quite embarrassed. All my own fault. It's a wonder I have any friends! FanSee

Obviously, your follow-through must be pretty good since, I agree, your lead-up was a little weak. You should've been the one to called first is the thing, sweetie. Next time :)

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